Homecoming after many months greets you with numerous pleasant and unpleasant encounters… relatives with plastic smile and intrusive questions, friends for whom every celebration means more and more liquor, mom who thinks son should be fed 24×7, brother who thinks his brother is drinking too much these days coz his belly hs bloated up, nephew who thinks his uncle = punching bag, at church bumping into that old schoolmate whom you had a crush on and disappointed to see her carrying a baby now(:P) …countryside drives through paddy fields that makes you believe you are in heaven, and the highway drives makes you believe you are in hell…. kerala never ceases to surprise you….by the time you are ready to return you are stuffed with so much memories to cherish until the next homecoming.
Took a long break to be at hometown this Jan. Had to attend a conference and also co-ordinate for brother’s marriage. An inter-religious, inter-state, inter-language, inter-culture marriage comes with its own challenges and opportunities. Challenge to break the conventional prejudice notions of people and opportunity to welcome a wonderful yet different person to your family. Both turned out to be refreshingly smooth and successful.
Cant resist mentioning few of the random observations I could make while at home, Kerala.
- For a marriage function, people come to eat. Period.
- Only people who listen to a marriage mass at church are the co-priests and altar boys. Rest all are busy envying other’s outfits.
- In a party, majority prefer brandy to rum to whisky. I was told that it is coz it gives them a faster ‘kick’.
- After 3 pegs, brand matters and not taste. Fill local liquor in a scotch bottle and they will still thank you. 😛
- Smoking is no more preferred, especially amongst 20-30 age group
- Everyone has an opinion about everything. However it is limited to preaching and not practicing.
- Goons and taporis during school days have become more successful than class toppers. Seeing this trend on a regular basis now.
- Gulf is still the ‘chosen land’, even for the newly pass-out engineers
- Interactive digital class-boards have come in our small town and students are also given linux os to use along with windows.
- Seeing more parda clad kids on the roads. People becoming more conscious about their religious identity ?
- People have gradually started to stop looking ‘down’ at people who start own business instead of job.
- Perception of success is more valued than success itself.
- Some book stalls still survive by selling only malayalam books. People are actually buying them. Long live the language.
- More real estate deals = more disposable income in hand = more audi’s and bmw’s on roads… Merc is no more the ‘in’ thing.
- Going through the speed track in highways are their birthright, even if the car is going at 20 kph they wont budge to left
- To get a work done, bribe/tip before the work. It helps far better than giving it later. Anyway you will end up paying for sure.
- Somethings never change… like a standard unlimited lunch that is still available for Rs. 20 in most hotels.
so after 25 days, 2000+km of driving, 4 functions and 5 kg increase in body weight…am back in A’bad. This time it was totally worth it…..and the memories are so overwhelming… let me take use months to miss it so much that I rush back at the next possible exit.